Perception is Key

Reflective Log Entry #2

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INTRODUCTION

This week’s reflection blog focuses on Self-Perception. Do you know how your friends perceive you? Have you had deep, meaningful conversations about your personality and behavioral traits?

FRIEND PERCEPTION

I took time this week and thought about what ways my friends and family perceive me. I thought this would be easier if I just simply asked them. That was a difficult thing for them to answer. They were like, "What do you mean?" I gave them more context, "Just let me know how you would describe me as a person." Below are the words they used.

GENEROUS

EXTROVERTED

OUTGOING

Generous was kind, but they also said I can be too generous at times, which I 100% agree with. However, I wouldn't change it at this point because that's just part of who I am. I’m extroverted to my friends/family, but I feel I can be introverted at times but ultimately, I didn’t disagree with them. The reason I’m in the position at my current company, is my ability to be put in any situation and be comfortable, which is on par with being outgoing. There weren’t many discrepancies in the way I thought they perceived me.  I know that I am usually the planner of the group, can get everyone together and often do a lot for those who I love.

THE WORK

I continue to work on myself based on feedback I received from my circle. I like to get things done and off my plate, so I don't forget to do them. At times, I can come off bossy. I have learned to meet with my team before an event of high stress time of the year and tell them I’m going to be direct and not as "fluffy" on the day of the event. You may not get the best of me, but I am going to try to be aware of my tone. I manage their expectations and still I self-evaluate if my communication is too tough.

PERCEPTION OF OTHERS

I like to give everyone at least three interactions before I make a true assessment of what type of personality/person they are.  I’m a pretty inclusive person, so I don’t surround myself with people who are judgmental of lifestyles, religions, gender, race or any other social factor.  I am more aware of personalities when it comes to dating.  This person could possibly be the person I am going to live with, build a family with and it’s important that we are aligned with similar communication styles, spirituality, and financial goals.  I don’t want to date a person who is rude to those who work in the service industry, doesn’t seem to have a good connection with their family, or is selfish. Any traits that are indicative of that being the case, I know it will not be a match.

PERCEPTION OVERALL

At times you have to sit back and analyze some of the difficult interactions you’ve had with a boss, partner, or even a stranger.  You may unintentionally give off a characteristic or behavior that you did not intend to do or even realize you’re doing.  If you read body language and notice a change in a relationship, you should ask and not be afraid to hear something that may hurt you because you hurt them.  Explain your intent and apologize if you were offensive somehow.